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Submitted by Mary, Nov 23, 2007 08:51

This article is right on! Too many parents today are so surprised when their sweet little babies suddenly develop a will of their own and have no idea how to handle it. Yesteryear parents simply said no and spanked, and the kids eventually learned their lessons. I spanked my kids and they're great people. And I too used the 'count to five' method mostly, but if I ever got to five, the result was a spanking for the kids. Every time. And I only had to do it once or twice per child and I never had to do it again (the spanking, that is). Spanking works when done properly. And it helps to realize that all discipline, including wimpy time outs, is adults using force upon their kids and succeeding because they're bigger. So what? That's the job of adults and parents.

Also, kid clothes are still available in catalogues like Lands End for kids, LLBean for kids, and many others. If you don't like what you see in the stores, don't buy there. Check out the catalogue world and give the stores some much needed competition.


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We haven't been back to the states in a few years, but this sounds ridiculous. I don't see kids dressing... [MORE]

Mike 

Dec 21, 2007 00:17

Check out www.hannaandersson.com/ Pricey, but quality made and will wear well. Check out the great sales. Nice article Thanks. [MORE]

Joanna Benson 

Dec 10, 2007 22:07

Cheap Chinese crap at Wal Mart looks like slut city. Even some of the toddler clothing is made of that... [MORE]

Magginkat 

Dec 12, 2007 18:20

Funny thing, we were in China this last Spring. Most of the Chinese people are conservative and modest in their... [MORE]

Joanna Benson 

Dec 12, 2007 19:41

Thank you for taking the time to accurately express what is so clearly reflected in our culture today. Who the... [MORE]

Tish 

Dec 3, 2007 14:15

The trend of these comments is either too true, what a shame, or "it doesn't offend **me** ". Some of... [MORE]

Hilary Silvert Newell 

Nov 30, 2007 14:38

I am a mother of one precious 4yr old girl....I am still considered a young parent since I am 31,... [MORE]

Lisa 

Nov 30, 2007 09:35

Yes, I agree that little girl clothes are rediculous in most mainstream department stores. I honestly do not know what... [MORE]

Valerie Connaghan 

Nov 29, 2007 08:55

I have the same problem shopping for my 7 and 9 year old girls. I do not allow tank tops,... [MORE]

Alison 

Nov 30, 2007 09:19

The Abercrombie & Fitch by us has a HUGE poster of a guy with no shirt on right in the... [MORE]

Dave 

Nov 26, 2007 18:02

I have not got any children but buy presents for family members and agree that something is adrift but we... [MORE]

DefogMyBlog 

Nov 26, 2007 10:37

I share this author's pain (I've already passed through the stages of: surprise, shock, outrage, disappointment, and am now wallowing... [MORE]

cav 

Nov 25, 2007 19:22

If I googled hard enough, I'm pretty sure I could find a 1915 op-ed piece written by a mom freaking... [MORE]

Jason 

Nov 25, 2007 18:57

While I have no problem with sparkles, pom-poms and sequins (except that they clog my dryer), I consider evening wear... [MORE]

Samantha 

Nov 26, 2007 09:34

It's not the fall of civilization, but it is a slippery slope. We went from no ankles to poodle skirts to... [MORE]

pduggie 

Nov 26, 2007 11:38

We can use the comparative of the standards of 100 years ago and realize that some parents' aversion to today's... [MORE]

Jason 

Nov 26, 2007 14:10

We've been using the phrase "six going on sixteen" to describe every generation for the past 100 years. Maybe more.... [MORE]

Jason 

Nov 26, 2007 14:18

I would agree with you, but these types of clothing are sexualizing girls at a very young age. It's almost... [MORE]

Dec 25, 2007 23:11

This is really sad, parents don't have control and media is not helping Parents should have control over their... [MORE]

Luxx 

Nov 25, 2007 13:42

Looks like a lot of the responses you received proved people weren't paying attention to the message. Which I gathered... [MORE]

Bia 

Nov 25, 2007 11:29

My daughter's 8 and I have been battling this issue of slutty-wear for the last 2 years. So this year... [MORE]

Maddie 

Nov 25, 2007 09:42

Do you guys have Benetton (or any other normal European brand) stores over there, or just these messed up stuff? [MORE]

Dan 

Nov 25, 2007 06:22

Man, if I ever have a daughter she is going to seriously hate me. :'( [MORE]

Kyle E 

Nov 25, 2007 05:32

oh please. it's really sad when you take popular fashion from the last 30 years and try to associate our children... [MORE]

joseph 

Nov 25, 2007 05:19

Well said, not all stores are like that. Perhaps the writer needs to explore cheaper stores like Walmart and K-Mart... [MORE]

Eliannarae 

Nov 25, 2007 15:27

The point isn't to dress your daughter like a slut. The point is to instill solid morals for an MTV... [MORE]

Jaded 

Nov 25, 2007 03:52

My family was never well off when I was little, so I always got hand-me-downs from my cousins (and my... [MORE]

Ami 

Nov 25, 2007 03:14

For the Love of God, get a grip on life. Just because she wrote something with a bit of language... [MORE]

Jivan Achreja 

Nov 25, 2007 02:31

I tend to avoid "department stores" because they're either poor quality, or just not well tailored. Of all the stores... [MORE]

Majken 

Nov 25, 2007 00:40

I have an issue with the author's statement that "They're kids, not short grown-ups. Remember?" Americans seem to think that... [MORE]

Quan Tranh 

Nov 24, 2007 23:55

Well, I think you are missing the point here. What she is trying to say is that these children should... [MORE]

Brandi 

Nov 25, 2007 11:16

"Southern bubba"??? This bit of regionalized prejudice ruins what was an otherwise excellent piece. [MORE]

JohnS 

Nov 24, 2007 22:23

I live in the Deep South. Around here, many fellas proudly go by the name of "Bubba." Most of them... [MORE]

Brennan Kingsland 

Nov 25, 2007 08:27

I always preferred the count-to-three method of discipline. It was astonishingly effective. You want to take back parental power? Try... [MORE]

M@ 

Nov 24, 2007 22:21

No. Kids have always wanted to grow up, and they are completely honest about their goals too. What you see... [MORE]

anon 

Nov 24, 2007 22:13

You compare this stuff to what Tara Reid would wear, and then move on to compare it to what Gwen... [MORE]

geoffrey 

Nov 24, 2007 22:06

I worked at the Limited Too, and all that shopped there were bratty little kids who walked all over their... [MORE]

Brandi 

Nov 24, 2007 21:44

As a smallish adult I find this trend very very ANNOYING on top of being terrible for children. I'm 4'10.... [MORE]

Kelly 

Nov 24, 2007 21:13

You may want check out either The Gap or Old Navy, as many of the outfits you can get there... [MORE]

Shir0 

Nov 24, 2007 20:07

All this inappropriate fashion comes from the corporate boardrooms and their advertising researchers. Parents must refuse to buy anything they... [MORE]

William F. Torpey 

Nov 24, 2007 17:44

Funny that, at 13 they wanna dress like a French tart, but by 18 they go all grunge in big... [MORE]

Excalibur 

Nov 24, 2007 20:03

When did "edgy" "transgressive" and the old standby "EXTREME!!!" become so ubiquitous in our culture? Some time back i'm afraid.... [MORE]

jojo 

Nov 24, 2007 22:03

There is an outstanding PBS Frontline program titled "The Marketing of Cool" that describes how this happens - which I... [MORE]

Jim B 

Nov 24, 2007 22:34

When you don't allow your children to fit in - whether or not you agree with what fits in -... [MORE]

J Head 

Nov 24, 2007 10:11

The building of self confidence starts at home; not in the tween dept. of Macy's. [MORE]

M. Corti 

Nov 24, 2007 15:48

J. head is incorrect in assuming that dressing like the "other skanks" will boost self esteem. First of all many... [MORE]

Mac D. 

Nov 24, 2007 22:52

you can get clothes that are "in style" yet don't have "sweet thang" stamped on ... just not in the... [MORE]

steve 

Nov 25, 2007 00:49

Mrs. Rivenbark has hit the nail on the head. I am the oldest of several children, and have occasionally passed... [MORE]

Dark-Star 

Nov 24, 2007 09:50

Ladies, get it together. Finally, a mother with a backbone. Why are moms so quick to turn their daughters into... [MORE]

Sonia 

Nov 24, 2007 03:43

02/28/08 The values that you described in your posting are what I acquired: coming-of age in the '70s. (1970s.) What... [MORE]

Amy Spanel 

Feb 28, 2008 20:54

Parents who dress their little girls to entice pedophiles-- who else is sexually attracted to 7 year-olds?-- should be forced... [MORE]

Xenu 

Nov 24, 2007 02:07

I agree wholeheartedly with your comments re childrens clothes! Let children BE children! Reminds me of that case of the... [MORE]

eye 

Nov 23, 2007 22:25

For all of you frustrated moms who agree with this article, there is hope! Check out Courtneyvaughandresses.com and you will... [MORE]

Colleen 

Nov 25, 2007 00:27

It's sexism all the way. Saying girls should show off their stuff to guys. Disgusting. Utterly disgusting. I'd protest even.... [MORE]

Maddy 

Nov 23, 2007 22:05

My daughter is 5 years old but it in size 12-14. I pretty much have to wear boy clothes on... [MORE]

Melissa Weihers 

Nov 23, 2007 19:43

Coming from an advertising/marketing background I can say with surety that by next season the kind of clothes you wish... [MORE]

anon 

Nov 24, 2007 23:55

I had thought that dressing trend was just in New Zealand, sad to see it appears to be worldwide. I'm... [MORE]

Andria 

Nov 23, 2007 18:45

As a 35 year old with a 4 year old daughter I'm glad to come across this article. My other complaint... [MORE]

Jordan Pearce 

Nov 23, 2007 18:17

I guess I should be thanking God right now that I'm not blessed with a daughter yet, and my toddler... [MORE]

Christy 

Nov 23, 2007 17:55

Many years ago there was a little cartoon character, who spoke with a German accent, and who's one and only... [MORE]

John Spencer Yantiss 

Nov 23, 2007 14:22

There is no spot on the corporate accounting ledger for complaints about "inappropriate product offerings", there are only "profits" &... [MORE]

Nov 23, 2007 12:59

This article is right on! Too many parents today are so surprised when their sweet little babies suddenly develop a...

Mary 

Nov 23, 2007 08:51

She's right; the sexualization of our young daughters continues, and it's been going on for years. The mothers are to... [MORE]

Barb 

Nov 23, 2007 08:37

Since when is "sweet Jesus" offensive? The author obviously made a point to avoid printing worse cursing--I think she said... [MORE]

Tyler Robinson 

Nov 24, 2007 20:26

As a father of a 5 soon to be 6 year old, I find that it is getting harder and... [MORE]

Geoff 

Nov 24, 2007 21:45

Celia is absolutely right on with this LONG, overdue article. Thank you, thank you, thank you, Celia! I hope and pray... [MORE]

Lucia A. Dodge 

Nov 23, 2007 08:20

Where is the protective instinct fathers should have in regards to their daughters? They could start by encouraging their wives... [MORE]

lizbeth 

Nov 23, 2007 12:13

It's no small wonder this country is sinking so fast, when the moms of our female offspring are decking them... [MORE]

Warren Hughes 

Nov 23, 2007 12:30

The dads are either convinced that they are worthless members of the family (commercials and tv shows depicting men as... [MORE]

Teaneck Dad 

Nov 24, 2007 21:28

I'm from the UK and this sort of thing is quite common. While shopping for my 8 year old, my... [MORE]

Paul 

Nov 24, 2007 22:48

We are continually baraged with over-the-top media to the point of creating diseases like anorexia and bulimia. Why is it... [MORE]

ark 

Dec 6, 2007 19:41

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