To accommodate all parties' interests, particularly the children's, regarding grandparent rights and in light of our State's Family Court practices... [MORE]

Kevin

Sep 10, 2008 13:58

I hope the courts provide clarity regarding the weight fit parent's views should be afforded and who has the burden... [MORE]

Kevin

Sep 8, 2008 09:52

My own mother took me to court for custody because I was in an accident and could barely walk. You... [MORE]

Erica

Feb 19, 2008 05:23

The law deffinalty needs defined. I am a firm believer in family involvement. However, my own GPV case is a... [MORE]

klynch

Feb 7, 2008 12:47

Have you thought of adoption. The law states that the grandparents rights automatically terminate in the event of an adoption.... [MORE]

Erica

Feb 19, 2008 05:43

only some states will turminate a visitation if an adoption takes place. However the parents of the decseaded parent can... [MORE]

klynch

Mar 15, 2008 00:10

Advocate: 1. One that argues for a cause; a supporter or defender: an advocate of civil rights. 2. One that pleads... [MORE]

Jennifer

Jan 20, 2008 12:50

We aren't mad at your particular situation. We are mad at the Grandparents who are trying to control their adult... [MORE]

Erica

Feb 21, 2008 13:23

If mothers and fathers were more responsble today, maybe grandparents would not need to intervene. Bottom line is concern about... [MORE]

tony

Dec 25, 2007 17:54

I couldn't agree with you more Tony! My son and daughter in law prefer to buy themselves expensive clothing, New... [MORE]

Lucy

Dec 26, 2007 10:44

If what you're saying is true, how bout you call DCFS? [MORE]

Erica

Feb 21, 2008 13:24

I believe that most people feel that when a child is in danger someone needs to step on on the... [MORE]

Krista

Mar 10, 2008 23:07

I absolutely agree that it's a control issue. My son is 3 and his dad passed away last summer, now... [MORE]

Kellie

Mar 13, 2008 11:40

Mandy, Your in laws can not take your child if you are a fit mom, You need to report them... [MORE]

lucy

Dec 23, 2007 18:03

We went to court in October. Come to find out my parents don't just want visitation anymore, they are sueing... [MORE]

Brandie

Nov 30, 2007 16:36

When my nephew was a year old, my sister and her husband divorced. She started abusing alcohol and drugs and... [MORE]

Katie

Sep 8, 2007 00:52

Recently our son decided to stray. While we tried to be supportive, we cannot "support" this kind of behavior. We... [MORE]

grandparent

Sep 8, 2007 08:20

You have no right to sue for visitation unless you can prove that the childrens parent(s) are unstable. If your... [MORE]

susan

Oct 12, 2007 18:17

I've wrote before.. but i want to say... when the parents are not "fit" they are abusive or drug/alcohol addidicts.... [MORE]

Michelle

Dec 3, 2007 15:17

Maybe you should do some research on grandparents rights, It all depends on the circumstances, Do more research/ [MORE]

Lucy

Dec 13, 2007 20:11

my in-laws have kept my child away from me twice. My husband and I are going through a divorce. He... [MORE]

mandi

Dec 23, 2007 05:00

My daughter is a drug addict with a 3 year old son. She went to rehab and was doing very... [MORE]

Cindy

Jan 23, 2008 19:14

My ex- wife and her parenents have taken me to court for visitation. How do I stop it? 1st My ex... [MORE]

Help

Jan 26, 2008 14:01

It is not an issue of rights of parents or grandparents alone. It is also a question of the rights... [MORE]

raj

Mar 11, 2008 20:52

My parents are taking me to court for Grandparent visitations. They were seeing my son every other weekend when my... [MORE]

Brandie

Jun 28, 2007 19:34

my daughter was taken by my motherinlaw 17 years ago. she told lies on me and her father to get... [MORE]

deborah

Sep 5, 2007 13:41

My fiance' and I have been together just over 2 years now. He has a 9 year old daughter, I... [MORE]

Brandee

Sep 10, 2007 19:57

Hi, Your story is my story.... We went threw the same thing... My mom and dad took me to court. They... [MORE]

Michelle

Nov 30, 2007 15:46

Something happened, we don't know what, and my Aunt and Mother came up with reasons to criticize our parenting- my wife's... [MORE]

Joe

Dec 25, 2007 13:09

A young mother suddenly passes away from illness. Fathers who have not been involved in their childrens lives, over due... [MORE]

LV4TCSJT

Jun 16, 2007 00:26

My daughter showed up one day and left the baby with me and the biological father. Over a period of... [MORE]

Don't Judge if you haven't been there

Jun 9, 2007 22:59

this is about grandparents who sue because they can! Or sue because they just dont like the parent and want... [MORE]

kel

Aug 31, 2007 12:48

This week my parents filed for cutody of my child. My husband and I separated about 16 months ago and... [MORE]

Terica

Nov 7, 2007 13:00

So you're a grandparent that had to step up due to a lousy daughter? How about instead of bashing your... [MORE]

Erica

Feb 19, 2008 05:48

New Jersey and Maryland Supreme Courts got it right. They ruled in favor of the parent's fundamental right to decide... [MORE]

Anonymous

Jan 14, 2007 01:09

I just got back from court today and have been fishing around the internet . Our next court day is... [MORE]

larry

Aug 28, 2007 13:16

i feel your pain. we are a low in come family making it on our own . my parents filed... [MORE]

Krystal

Nov 12, 2007 04:16

In rulings just this week both the Maryland Supreme Court and the New Jersey Supreme Courts have found for parents... [MORE]

K. Bearden

Jan 12, 2007 21:09

opposed to this legislation are those that have lost their third party visitation cases. Correct Lisa, Karen and Andrea? [MORE]

Jack

Jan 8, 2007 21:25

Grandparents who sue for visitation obviously are opposed to allowing their adult child the same right they enjoyed raising their... [MORE]

Jill

Jan 9, 2007 00:26

Taking healthy families to court, at tremendous expense to the family, further degrading them with psychological evaluations, violating their privacy... [MORE]

K. Bearden

Jan 9, 2007 08:40

To Jack- Who better to advocate for how wrong this kind of legislation is than those who have had their family... [MORE]

K. Bearden

Jan 9, 2007 19:53

When there is an issue of parents using drugs and alcohol and the children not getting proper care. Grandparents intervention... [MORE]

Margarita Ladage-Johnson

Jan 12, 2007 11:35

Perhaps the courts could spend a lot more time and effort helping those abused and neglected children if our tax... [MORE]

K. Bearden

Jan 12, 2007 20:00

Drugs, alcohol abuse, and child abuse are serious problems best addressed by custody suits. In these cases a fit grandparent... [MORE]

Olivia

Jan 14, 2007 02:25

Have you ever had to deal with a drug addicted parent abandonding a 2 month old baby? I have. I... [MORE]

GerTie

Jun 9, 2007 23:34

I'm seeing a lot of grandparents reply with the "don't judge if you haven't been there" defense. However, you are... [MORE]

K George

Jun 21, 2007 03:11

Both of my granddaughter's parents are drug addicts. One is a career criminal, now going back (again) for 3 years.... [MORE]

Kathleen Ambrose

Nov 25, 2007 14:08

I totally agree about letting our children raise their own kids (our grandkids) without grandparents interfering but what happens when... [MORE]

Lucy

Dec 12, 2007 16:30

Grandparents controlling their children? What planet are you on? I seen more parents controlling their children grandparents! Believe me I... [MORE]

Lucy

Dec 13, 2007 19:30

Usually on this day I would of been all excited about tomorrow *Christmas eve* I would had all my presents... [MORE]

Lucy

Dec 23, 2007 10:57

Happy new year everyone! Well, Christmas and 2007 has past and still haven't been able to see my grandkids, I'm... [MORE]

Lucy

Jan 3, 2008 12:31

Visitation by grandparents in neither a right nor a previlege. It is a duty to ensure that their children and... [MORE]

Raj

Mar 11, 2008 21:45

This is surreal. Whoever thought this stuff up was nuts. On what legal basis are these grandparents suing fit parents?... [MORE]

Andy

Jan 8, 2007 01:49

I completely agree with your comment. This law completely infringes on the rights of the parents and does nothing but put... [MORE]

Suffering as we speak

Jun 15, 2007 11:29

have you found a way for us to stop this? [MORE]

Kel

Aug 30, 2007 20:54

I am just so sickened by this law and what it is doing to me and my boys! lets get... [MORE]

mom

Sep 11, 2007 14:00

The most recent update of the law was effective Jan. of 2007. My own mother has taken me to court... [MORE]

Erica

Feb 19, 2008 05:40

Legal basis is always dependent on needs of time, and is decided by the society. Today, with the exploding divorce... [MORE]

Raj

Mar 11, 2008 22:32

Nice little article however my daughter's father is dead and grandma refuses to see my daughter unless I am not... [MORE]

suffering as we speak

Mar 13, 2008 19:43

I'm a grandpatent - and - right; laws need to protect the children. That is why all laws giving court... [MORE]

Donna

Jan 5, 2007 15:37

I am responding in general to all the comments made on this site. You parents need to get a grip.... [MORE]

Pogie

Jun 22, 2007 19:04

My soon to be ex-husbands parents have kept our child from seeing me. They flat out lie to me about... [MORE]

mandi

Dec 23, 2007 05:25

I would like to express my concern regarding court ordered Grandparent Visitation and New York Domestic Relations Law 72.... [MORE]

Mom2-3

Jan 5, 2007 15:09

I can't believe what I am reading. My husband and I spent over a year fighting off abusive grandparents, being... [MORE]

Renee

Mar 22, 2007 19:21

I'm in court right now trying to fight off my ex-mother in law to have any visitation with my daughter... [MORE]

Dee

Apr 12, 2007 14:30

I respect the wishes of those parents who don't wish their children to have any contact with their grandparents. In... [MORE]

zenaida ortiz

May 7, 2007 16:18

I am just so angry and upset! my life has been hell! I am broke and we have not even... [MORE]

mom

Sep 11, 2007 14:03

I think you are only telling your side of the story, I'm sure there was a reason why your children... [MORE]

Lucy

Dec 15, 2007 12:03

When parents take an action that damages the "love" bond that exists in the heart, grandparents/significant others are left to... [MORE]

Paul in NY

Dec 29, 2007 14:15

i just read this article because i was recently served with order to show cause documents by my husband's parents... [MORE]

jaime

Jan 28, 2008 21:29

I've been divorced for 4 years, my ex and I share custody of our 3 children.. I know that he... [MORE]

Jodi

Feb 9, 2008 09:00

I would do everything possible to wait until they get out of school before moving. If you agree to their... [MORE]

Erica

Feb 21, 2008 13:18

VIctim of Domestic violence, my daughter was assaulted at age 3 by her biological father, I have been in family... [MORE]

Kathy

Mar 21, 2008 13:54

"Under the provision of the state's Domestic Relations Law, grandparents usually are allowed to petition for visitation only when one... [MORE]

Polly

Jan 5, 2007 10:36

Grandparents have endangered their grandson by hiding son's drug addiction and now want visitation when always solidly criticizing mother (who,... [MORE]

Nancy

Nov 23, 2007 21:39

My situation is the same as this artical! Is there a way that I can divorce my parents to keep... [MORE]

Faith

Mar 20, 2008 21:03

It is true that the USSC Justices issued six opinions in Troxel v. Granville, 530 U.S. 57 (2000). However, there... [MORE]

Karen A. Wyle

Jan 5, 2007 10:27

There are only 5 states that have adopted a harm standard as a prerequisite for granting third party visitation. [MORE]

Jack

Jan 8, 2007 21:09

[w/response by The New York Sun Editors]There seems to be much confusion about the true nature of the Grandparent Visitation laws. If so many grandparents are... [MORE]

Mary

Jan 5, 2007 04:21

How about us parents stick together and DO SOMETHING!I am going through this process with a grandmother who wasn't even... [MORE]

Kel

Aug 30, 2007 20:51

I have to protect my kids from their grandparents. The grandparents raise two of my husbands nieces and they refuse... [MORE]

Tammi

Jan 26, 2008 11:59

[w/response by The New York Sun Editors]Grandparent visitation laws only allow visitation. They are not meant to "protect" children from drug-using, abusive parents. All states have... [MORE]

Lisa S

Jan 4, 2007 23:49

should consider the trauma inflicted upon them when selfish parents irresponsibly decide to terminate a cherished relationship. [MORE]

Jack

Jan 8, 2007 21:16

My comments illustrate what children and parents must go through when they are sued because a grandparent cannot live with... [MORE]

Lisa S.

Jan 9, 2007 13:37

CHERISHED is a very subjective word. [MORE]

barbara

Jan 9, 2007 15:30

Parents who truly care for their children and grandchildren don't traumatize and suck a family dry using the court system... [MORE]

K. Bearden

Jan 9, 2007 20:05

My own parents took me to court for visitation of my children 5 years after i got divorced. They were... [MORE]

Michelle

Nov 30, 2007 15:31

[w/response by The New York Sun Editors]Grandparent visitation ONLY affects FIT parents. When a parenta is unfit then grandparent visitation will NOT help the child and there... [MORE]

Dauger

Jan 4, 2007 22:20

My grandson is the victim of grandparent's rights. Yes, I said a victim. This is not about a cooking baking... [MORE]

Deborah Custer

Jan 5, 2007 14:23

when the decision to terminate the grandparent relationship is purely motivated by the parent's self-serving interests, interests that run contrary... [MORE]

Jack

Jan 9, 2007 14:47

Jack you have seem to have nominated yourself guro of a child's best interest! Not to mention having the need... [MORE]

John

Jan 9, 2007 23:48

I live in NJ and was sued by my mother for GPV 2.5 yrs ago. After spending $30K, the NJ... [MORE]

Valerie

Jan 12, 2007 09:02

SINCE YOUR SON HAS CUSTODY OF YOUR GRANDSON I PRESUME YOU HAVE CONTACT WITH YOUR GRANDSON IF NOT WHY? MY... [MORE]

GRANDMA X 5-1

Apr 11, 2007 12:24

It's about time someone tell the truth about grandparent bashing. There seems to be a trend whether the parents are... [MORE]

CAROLENA

Apr 14, 2007 22:00

Grandparent visitation is a nasty thing when it's used against fit parents. I am a stepmother, although my child is... [MORE]

Keri

Jun 6, 2007 14:31

I have a 4 yr old grandaughter who has lived in my house for three years and now my daughter... [MORE]

Robin

Jul 17, 2007 10:50

I am a single mom raising 2 children. My mother and I have never had a good relationship. She watched... [MORE]

Speer

Aug 31, 2007 16:18

[w/response by The New York Sun Editors]No Grandparent in their right mind would dream of interfering this way. When you do the math what is left... [MORE]

Jennifer

Jan 4, 2007 22:19

[w/response by The New York Sun Editors]The ultimate right to children lies with their parents. That is the way it is and the way it should... [MORE]

candace

Jan 4, 2007 18:06

I am a child advocate and am working with Legislation to Ensure all Grandchildren get to visit and know the... [MORE]

Brenda

Jan 4, 2007 11:59

This would be the adult thing to do if the Grandparent knew their place in the family unit. When the... [MORE]

Tara

Jan 5, 2007 15:21

So what you are advocating is placing the child in the middle of what is a hostile situation? Not all... [MORE]

K. Bearden

Jan 9, 2007 20:17

I had been in my grandchilds live up until last May of this year. I had tried to be helpful... [MORE]

busywoman

Oct 20, 2007 03:00

I couldn't agree with you more, So wrong for parents to use their kids as weapons, The only time they... [MORE]

Lucy

Dec 13, 2007 22:42

Brenda, You are on the right track. Grandparents, in the current context of exploding divorce rates, youth violence, premature sex and... [MORE]

Raj

Mar 11, 2008 23:46

The courts are allowing the estranged parent of grandchild to more or less BRIBE the Grandparents. They are using children... [MORE]

CLAUD

Jan 3, 2007 23:16

1/5/07 This certainly doesn't apply in my case. My son died 14 months after our granddaughter was born. We only asked... [MORE]

Lois A. Galloway

Jan 5, 2007 19:07

Claud: As a victim of a vindictive mentally ill estranged father in law who has come after my children after... [MORE]

Annie

Jan 9, 2007 00:27

It's ridiculous that you expect any sympathy, as Dr. Phil would say, "How's that working for you?" Did you really... [MORE]

K. Bearden

Jan 9, 2007 20:02

we are pursuing our wishes to see our the 6 and 4 yr. old grandkids through the courts as I... [MORE]

pam

Nov 16, 2007 03:15

Grandparent Visitation seems to be coming a "hot topic". I have been working on this issue through legislation. What seems... [MORE]

Andrea K.

Jan 3, 2007 22:44

I disagree with the AG's commentary that our statute is constitutional because it can be "construed" to be giving parents... [MORE]

Karen

Jan 5, 2007 20:00

in "complete disregard for your children". [MORE]

Jack

Jan 8, 2007 21:22

And suing your adult child is in complete disrespect of your adult child's abilty and right to parent as he/she... [MORE]

Helen

Jan 9, 2007 00:07

It's all about respect for the parent. [MORE]

Jack

Jan 9, 2007 14:51

A poster wrote that, "it is all about respect for the parent". To a large degree the poster is correct.... [MORE]

Mary

Jan 10, 2007 12:30

Jack, It's funny you go there. You are the parent of the child's parent, right? But somehow in your twisted perception... [MORE]

K. Bearden

Jan 12, 2007 09:25

The fact of the matter is that, to begin with, divorce does not enrich a child's life. [MORE]

Antoninus

Feb 15, 2007 23:30

A parent in the good old U.S. of A. no longer has rights to their children. This is true due... [MORE]

Warrior

Mar 16, 2007 13:45

ok...in a nitshell...I am a divorced mother of 3..I share primary residance of my 3 children with my ex husband...at... [MORE]

Jodi

Jan 25, 2008 20:26

my girlfriend and i just had a little boy on jan. 31. there is a chance that he isn't biologically... [MORE]

daryl

Mar 4, 2008 16:52

I also filed for visitation after reporting a daughter who had abused drugs and alcohol for 26 years. The courts...

margarita

Jan 3, 2007 15:26

If all grandparents were cookie baking, let's go fishing old people, this would be a no-brainer...but they're NOT. These same... [MORE]

barbara

Jan 5, 2007 11:15

When you protect the child's parents you are securing the child's future. The law must protect the parents as the... [MORE]

K. Bearden

Jan 9, 2007 20:23

Ironic isn't it that you didn't seem to acquire this opinion until after you were done raising your kids. If... [MORE]

K. Bearden

Jan 12, 2007 09:36

The nuclear family is destroyed once the divorce occurs and one of the parents (usually the father) is excluded from... [MORE]

Antoninus

Feb 15, 2007 23:41

How horrible!!! Some grandparents are not worthy of seeing their grandchildren!!! We are in the middle of a similar situation... [MORE]

Pam

May 14, 2007 18:14

How can we stop this? i just got took to court by my boys paternal grandparents because their son my... [MORE]

Rebecca S

Jun 14, 2007 09:00

I have 5 beautiful grandchildren. I am not allowed at this time to see 3 of them due to my... [MORE]

Sharon

Sep 6, 2007 07:35

There are several comments about irresponsible parents doing drugs and/or dropping their kids off on grandma's doorsterp. Clearly irresponsible. Clearly... [MORE]

Olivia

Sep 27, 2007 12:27

I have read your essay and I can tell you have let your bitterness blind you and perhaps you are... [MORE]

Beverly

Nov 15, 2007 19:55

Haven't seen both grandchidren since July3,2007. Going to court and daughter doesn't show 3x. Whats this, is not contempt? Have... [MORE]

pam

Nov 16, 2007 03:37

I totally understand, I've been in court with my mother four years, at this point I'm losing my home and... [MORE]

Lisa Wright-Clegg

Jan 16, 2008 22:41

There are some comments that i have read about other laws protecting children who actually are in unfit environments, It... [MORE]

liz

Feb 4, 2008 19:45

There are some comments that i have read about other laws protecting children who actually are in unfit environments, It... [MORE]

liz

Feb 4, 2008 20:45

Maybe they are trying to Protect them from the hostility that is obously there right now, i think it is... [MORE]

liz

Feb 4, 2008 21:25

What do you mean by "too harsh", The question is is she physically or mentally abusive? For my childs sake... [MORE]

liz

Feb 4, 2008 23:10

Grandparent and Third Party Visitation laws are about visitation, not custody. In the tragic situations where children are being neglected... [MORE]

Jim Pistole

Feb 24, 2008 12:38

What is not clear is as to why The parents of children, who themselves are children of the grandparents against... [MORE]

Raj

Mar 12, 2008 00:59

Rebecca, Are you bitter over the grandparents having time with their grandson at this time in their lives. Thew are... [MORE]

abby

Mar 18, 2008 22:02